No More MR Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

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No More MR Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

No More MR Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

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A Nice Guy needs to believe that it’s okay to be a guy. He should hang out with other guys. He should be masculine. He should be comfortable around other guys. He should believe that other guys are not jerks. He should have male friends. He should build meaningful relationships with other men, not disassociate with other men. He should not be a loner. Men have strength, discipline, courage, passion, persistence and integrity. They can also be aggressive, destructive and brutal. Nice Guys should not repress the fact that they possess these traits. Helping your friends out is a great and noble thing. In fact, the world would be a better place if people would help each other out more. However, there’s a limit to everything, and men who tend to overplease others are also more likely to have blurry or nonexistent boundaries in their relationships. hour ago 9 Point Guide: The Science of Happiness 9th point is the most important one, and you never knew it before!

Most men have lost their partners, homes, and jobs from the obsession with being liked. Most nice guys are broken and need support to overcome this syndrome and lead a happier, healthier life, including cultivating a healthy sex life. This is why the no more Mr. nice guy movement was started. There are no perfect relationships. There are no perfect partners. Relationships by their very nature are chaotic, eventful, and challenging.” The French print translation is entitled, “ Trop Gentil Pour Être Heureux: Le Syndrome du Chic Type.” As a recovering nice guy, the only way to release your creative potential, start putting your own needs first, experience personal growth, and live your best life, is by investing in yourself. First, you need to read the self-help book, no more Mr. nice guy by Robert a. glover. The No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want is available in hardcover as an audiobook and a podcast. The typical nice man thinks that if he hides his true personality and follows the lead of the other person, he’ll get what he wants. He lets go of his desires to please around and keeps the frustrations that come as a result within him. This toxic approach to creating relationships usually results in toxic friendships and anxiety.

When I first read this book, it absolutely floored me. As my buddy Mike had alluded to, it truly did read as if the author had been stalking me for the past few decades and documenting my every move. There is nothing in that advice that applies only to humans gendered as male. Neither is there when Glover points out it's important to have strong friendships outside of a relationship. No-one can be everything for a person. No More Mr. Nice Guy is about being a man, not a manipulator. It is about being our genuine selves, not pseudo selfless. It frees the women we love to trust us and respect us rather than fear us and suspect us. It is for every man who does not want to fear commitment out of fear of losing himself. It is well written, insightful and down-to-earth. It is for every man.” Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author of The Myth of Male Power

Compartmentalization: Nice Guys believe themselves to be honest, but they are actually dishonest and secretive. They compartmentalize their secret lives from the persona they try to project. They are not integrated, because they don’t accept both the good and bad aspects of themselves. They are isolated, passive-aggressive, full of rage and addictive. When they feel ashamed, they try to deflect the shame onto others by becoming defensive and pointing out the other person’s flaws. They build up walls (addictions, sarcasm, isolation), instead of letting it all hang out. They don’t realize that people are not drawn to perfection. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual’s life energy. In short, “an integrated male doesn’t strive to be perfect or gain the approval of others. Instead, he accepts himself just as he is, warts and all. An integrated male accepts that he is perfectly imperfect.” The Making of a Nice Guy Men’s Group is a men-only online support group that offers support and guidance to men from all walks of life. It is also a no more Mr. nice guy online support group that offers emotional and social support to men from different age groups. Nice Guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes. These men are afraid that others will get mad at them, shame them, or leave them if some mistake or shortcoming is exposed.The fact that they are constantly helping other people, trying to fix situations and repress their own feelings and needs takes its toll in time and results in them becoming passive-aggressive and angry individuals who feel as if some kind of cosmic injustice has been done to them. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in many publications, dubbed “emerging figure in the Men’s Movement” by The Seattle Times and “a psychology guru” by The New York Times. Well, in a nutshell, it’s utterly unhealthy; human nature is not like that, and Nice Guys are actually Nice merely on the surface. Throughout your life, you’ll meet amazing people with pure intentions. But you will also meet self-absorbed ones who only have their own interests in mind. Everybody loves the first category and loathes the other.

Dr. Glover argues that the "Nice Guy" is the guy who because he has lost his "voice" resorts to passive aggression, dishonesty, and evasion all the while saying that he is fine and perfectly happy. Underneath, however, he is seething and miserable and doesn't understand or know why. Nice Guys are the guys that everyone can take advantage of, you can ask them for anything and they will give it up, they are easily exploited, they volunteer for everything. All the while they are only craving to be accepted. I tend to only be happy if my partner is happy. And I often blame myself if they are in a bad mood. While Glover never mentions the connection in the book, his thesis also helped me connect certain dots on what turn out to be the surprisingly modern (or post-modern, if you will) and recent origins of nerddom itself. A topic to be taken up in an essay, if I should ever make the time for it. As Glover points out, I do have a few other miscellaneous projects to finish first.

No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

Yes, you could show someone the door, but he's the one who has to walk through it; and he's unlikely to do so until it's his last option. So, this shall remain a book to be discovered, not recommended. Thankfully we do have this thing called the Internet to facilitate such happy eventualities. But whenever he's not complaining about feminism like it's the problem, abusing the shit out of hyperbole (so much always/never language in this book), ignoring issues with consumer culture, or getting ridiculously Freudian (he repeatedly says that nice guys are monogamous to their mothers), it's actually pretty good.



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